Finding Camelot emphasizes structured independence, particularly in its approach to raising children. Dependents are provided with age-appropriate levels of responsibility, privacy, and autonomy, teaching them to navigate boundaries, make decisions, and build self-worth.

How It Fosters Emotional Intelligence:

• By being treated as capable and valued, dependents internalize a sense of worth that builds resilience and reduces the likelihood of passing on cycles of insecurity or neglect.
• Children learn to balance independence with accountability, fostering self-regulation and empathy as they grow.
• Adults involved in this system also deepen their emotional awareness, as they are required to guide and mentor, which strengthens their own capacity for empathy and patience.

At its core, Finding Camelot operates as a trauma-informed space—a community that acknowledges the impact of generational trauma and actively works to disrupt it. This is reflected in the supportive communal living model and programs like CareShare, where members take turns helping each other with childcare and other emotional labor.

How It Heals Trauma:

• The communal model provides consistent, safe relationships—key to healing trauma. Members develop trust, security, and mutual understanding.

• Shared responsibilities alleviate the emotional and mental burden many people carry alone, creating space for healing and reflection.

• CareShare helps children see that caregiving and emotional support are communal values, reducing the isolation and fear often associated with neglect or overburdened caregivers.

Generational trauma often isolates individuals and families, perpetuating patterns of mistrust, shame, and disconnection. Finding Camelot’s model creates intentional relationships that foster belonging and mutual respect.

How It Fosters Connection:

• Weekly household meetings encourage open dialogue and collective problem-solving, teaching members to express needs, listen actively, and collaborate without fear of judgment.

• Members are supported in practicing vulnerability in a safe environment, learning how to ask for and provide help—a crucial skill for overcoming trauma.

Deluxe members often step into household leadership roles like Executive Homemaker or Executive Provider, which require them to manage conflict, inspire others, and balance competing needs. These roles nurture emotional intelligence in adults by placing them in positions where empathy, patience, and self-awareness are essential.

How It Fosters Growth:

• Leaders must navigate complex interpersonal dynamics, which improves their social awareness and relationship management skills.

• Members regularly practice nonviolent communication, learning to resolve disputes constructively rather than through reactive or harmful patterns inherited from past trauma.

Finding Camelot views privacy as a precious commodity, particularly in communal living. By offering tiered accommodations based on room credits, it ensures that everyone has access to private space when they need it.

How It Heals Trauma:

• Privacy fosters self-reflection and emotional regulation, allowing individuals to decompress and process their emotions.

• The intentional balance of private and shared spaces teaches members to set and respect boundaries, a critical step in healing from trauma rooted in violations of physical or emotional space.

Generational trauma often results from unmet needs cascading through families. Finding Camelot interrupts this by creating multi-generational support systems, where elders, adults, and children coexist in a balanced and mutually supportive environment.

How It Heals Generational Trauma:

• Elders contribute wisdom and stability, while younger members bring energy and innovation, creating a sense of continuity and purpose for all ages.

• Members have the opportunity to rewrite harmful narratives by witnessing and participating in healthier relationships.

• Dependents see adults modeling emotional intelligence and accountability, breaking the “do as I say, not as I do” cycle that perpetuates trauma.

Household meetings, leadership roles, and shared responsibilities require emotional literacy: the ability to identify, understand, and articulate emotions. By normalizing this practice, Finding Camelot helps members develop the tools to understand themselves and relate to others.

How It Builds Emotional Intelligence:

• Members learn to name their feelings and distinguish them from their reactions, fostering self-awareness.

• Open communication creates a culture of empathy, where everyone is encouraged to understand and support others’ emotional experiences.

Finding Camelot leans into prevention over punishment, reframing mistakes as opportunities for growth rather than causes for shame. This philosophy is evident in its legal advocacy work and its communal decision-making processes.

How It Prevents Trauma:

• By creating a culture of repair, members are encouraged to take responsibility for their actions and learn from their errors, breaking cycles of shame and defensiveness.

• Dependents grow up in an environment where they are supported through failures, learning resilience and self-compassion rather than internalizing blame or inadequacy.

At its heart, Finding Camelot offers a way to reconnect people to a sense of purpose and belonging—key elements in healing trauma. By living and working together toward shared goals, members rediscover their intrinsic value and their ability to contribute meaningfully to a larger whole.

How It Heals Trauma:

• Purpose counters the helplessness and hopelessness often inherited through generational trauma.

• Community reinforces that no one has to face their struggles alone, providing a safety net that fosters confidence and healing.

The philosophy of Finding Camelot directly challenges the narratives of scarcity, individualism, and competition that perpetuate trauma on a societal level. Instead, it champions abundance, collaboration, and mutual care.

How It Heals Trauma:

• Members are immersed in an environment that proves another way of living is possible, breaking the internalized beliefs that lead to fear, mistrust, and conflict.

• Generations raised in this system will grow up with a new story—one rooted in love, resilience, and interdependence.